For Christians, as well as those of other faiths, the organized religious precepts that may be hundreds [or thousands] of years old often emphasize personal sanctity. Be holy. Observe the law[s]. Practice the rites and rituals. Focus on the larger objective—a safe and happy arrival in the hereafter.
There is nothing wrong with this kind of thinking—unless, or until, our choices and actions make “me” more important than “you.” Interestingly enough, this whole process can be so subtle we don’t realize that rather than be other-centered as Jesus lived, we are more concerned with our own personal goodness. Which sin have I overcome. Which one do I need to confess. Which one is the “thorn in the side”, as the apostle Paul states.
At the root of this kind of behavior is the belief that the smartest action we can take is to make self the priority. However, as with most of life, if we attest to that perspective the majority of the time, things get out of balance in a big hurry. If I am solidly determined to direct my energy and attention on me, I tend to overlook or forget about you.
How then, are we to achieve balance between our desire for holiness and our call to live with a servant heart? How about You before me?
The choice to put others before self in a healthy manner can unfold through numerous actions that may seem small in the moment, yet impact the receiver with blessings we will never know about.
. . . the moment we step back so another may proceed through the doorway ahead of us
. . . the moment we add a bit more to the tip for the delivery driver
. . . the moment we smile and make eye contact with a stranger who appears sad or discouraged
. . . the moment we reach to hold the hand of a child as they take their first steps
. . . the moment we make a phone call, text, or write a note to someone who comes to mind
. . . the moment we wait to let another driver exit ahead of us
. . . the moment we offer a hug to our spouse, family member, or friend
While Jesus may have seemed “stern” at times—and he was—he was always compassionate and loving. With the help of the Father, he quickly discerned how he might help each person he encountered.
It is true those on the receiving end may not have always understood the full meaning of his actions, however, one thing was for certain—each person knew they had experienced a moment that had the potential to change their life for the better.
You and I are not God, nonetheless, through the love and guidance of the Holy Spirit each of us can, if we choose, allow the Divine to work through us to be a blessing to countless others.
You. Before me.
How focused am I on personal holiness?
How do I feel about putting others before myself?
Can I ask God to grow and nurture my servant heart?
